From a limited perspective, there is a tendency to label something that happens as either good or bad, or to believe it can only be what you think it is, and nothing else. On a higher level, you can't know the significance of all that is happening as a result of a disappointing experience. What if there is something beneficial or purposeful within the disappointment, that is beyond what you can see from where you are?
When you are willing to invite a more expansive perspective, you can then hold the questions which ask:
"Could there be more to this?"
"Is there another way to perceive this?”
Sometimes the answer will be no.
Sometimes you may be in so much disappointment that there simply is no other way for you to perceive the experience to be anything other than what you perceive it to be. And you should allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without any agenda of speeding up the process.
However, at a different time, the answer will be yes.
You will be able to look at the disappointment to see perhaps you are exaggerating the importance of something or failing to recognize not all is at it appears to be.
While disappointment can be significant, lingering disappointment comes about when there is a tendency to transform your loss into a story instead of accepting it as an event contributing to a bigger picture. Despite the external appearance, disappointment can serve to help you move out of focusing on small perspectives and instead focusing on the larger perspective of where life is trying to lead you.